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Matt Connarton Unleashed 5-3-25 hour 1
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Speaker 7: It is that time again. Matt Connorton unleashed and we
Speaker 7: are live from the studios of wm NH ninety five
Speaker 7: point three FM and Glorious Manchester, New Hampshire. If you
Speaker 7: are listening live on Saturday morning, today is May third,
Speaker 7: two thy twenty five and I am not alone.
Speaker 6: Jod morning sunshine.
Speaker 7: Yes, Jenny is here of course at the news table
Speaker 7: President on account of pH and very very nice day
Speaker 7: outside is eighty today.
Speaker 6: Yeah, windows open listening berties.
Speaker 7: I noticed the sun came out after we arrived. So
Speaker 7: we have an exciting show for you today for a
Speaker 7: couple of reasons. One is, you know, we've got some
Speaker 7: great guests lined up. In just a few minutes, we're
Speaker 7: gonna be talking with our old friend Charles Richardson, host
Speaker 7: of The Charles Richardson Show, and haven't had Charles on
Speaker 7: in a long time, so that'll be a while. That'll
Speaker 7: be fun. And then in the second hour, we have
Speaker 7: the band Able Blood joining us. Able Blood we've had
Speaker 7: on several times. This might be their fourth time.
Speaker 6: I think they're almost in the five timers club.
Speaker 7: Almost, yeah, I think this. I think this is going
Speaker 7: to be their fourth time today. But such a great band,
Speaker 7: and we love featuring Abel Blood on the show. And
Speaker 7: then in the third hour today we have Etch in
Speaker 7: the Youngs and they're gonna be coming in and they're
Speaker 7: gonna play live for us in studio. We also have
Speaker 7: a couple of great studio tracks to feature from from
Speaker 7: Etch and the Youngs, but looking forward to that as
Speaker 7: well now. But circling back to as I mentioned, in
Speaker 7: just a couple of minutes, we're gonna be talking to
Speaker 7: our friend Charles Richardson. But we're making radio history today today,
Speaker 7: today is a significant moment in the history of Matt
Speaker 7: Connorton Unleash Why because this morning, your hat is straight,
Speaker 7: my hat is, Uh.
Speaker 5: I don't I'm not worried.
Speaker 7: About my happings straight right now. I just don't like
Speaker 7: when my hat's crooked in pictures. When my hat's crowing
Speaker 7: in pictures, it really bothers me. I like a nice, straight,
Speaker 7: perfectly centered hat. But no, we're making radio history on
Speaker 7: the program because for the first time, for the first
Speaker 7: time ever on Matt Connor Toon Unleashed, this we're going
Speaker 7: to be using WhatsApp to speak with a guest. Yes,
Speaker 7: and I'm glad it's someone we know, our friend Charles,
Speaker 7: because and I had known this. I knew this in
Speaker 7: the back of my mind, but I had I'd forgotten.
Speaker 5: Uh.
Speaker 7: Skype is gone. There is no more Skype. We have
Speaker 7: traditionally used Skype on the program. Now there are other options,
Speaker 7: of course, for going all the way back to the
Speaker 7: beginning of our tenure here at WM and H, we've
Speaker 7: always used Skype, you know, especially it's a It's been
Speaker 7: especially handy for guests who are on other continents who
Speaker 7: you know, it's going to cost them money to call
Speaker 7: us on the phone. So we've we've used Skype, but
Speaker 7: Skype has gone away. So but uh, everyone's using WhatsApp
Speaker 7: these days anyway. So we're going to attempt in just
Speaker 7: a moment. I am going to because you know, WhatsApp
Speaker 7: is really for your phone, but you can use it
Speaker 7: on a desktop computer. So I'm going to attempt in
Speaker 7: just a moment to call Charles. Because Charles is in Florida,
Speaker 7: he's not here with us in studio. Obviously, I'm going
Speaker 7: to attempt to call Charles via WhatsApp on this computer,
Speaker 7: the same computer on which we used to use Skype,
Speaker 7: and hopefully it works. We did test it, you and
Speaker 7: I tested it before the show and it seemed to
Speaker 7: work okay. But we will we will we will test it, yes,
Speaker 7: off air, but we will test this. We will test
Speaker 7: it with Charles.
Speaker 6: It will either be gloriously great or.
Speaker 7: It could it could be calamitous. And and if it is,
Speaker 7: if it is calamitous, that means that means we'll have
Speaker 7: to go back to the drawing board and figure something
Speaker 7: out for the future. Right now, and of course, in
Speaker 7: that case too. Charles can always just call on his
Speaker 7: cell phone. But but it's good to have an option
Speaker 7: where people don't have.
Speaker 1: To use.
Speaker 7: Yes, yeah, it would be expensive. From the other side, right, exactly,
Speaker 7: it won't cost him anything to just call on a
Speaker 7: cell phone. But but if we can talk to him
Speaker 7: on a computer, calls probably be bad quality. I'm sure
Speaker 7: there will be. I'm sure there will be, so I
Speaker 7: think we should just go ahead. Hopefully he's ready. I've
Speaker 7: got his full disclosure. I've not used WhatsApp on a desktop,
Speaker 7: so hopefully it works.
Speaker 6: Oh, this is true when you did Now when we
Speaker 6: tested it, did you try it on the desktop or
Speaker 6: did you try it on your phone.
Speaker 7: On the desktop? But I have to call Charles because
Speaker 7: what we could not figure out. And I'll look at
Speaker 7: it later and try to figure this out. But when
Speaker 7: you called me using WhatsApp, it showed up on my
Speaker 7: phone but not on the desktop, so I could not
Speaker 7: answer your call on WhatsApp on the desktop. I could
Speaker 7: only do it on my phone. But I'm calling Charles
Speaker 7: from the desktop as I called you from the desktop,
Speaker 7: and that worked, so that should work. Oh, by the way,
Speaker 7: I want to say too, hello to our friend Jay Bellow,
Speaker 7: of course, from the great band Chasing the Devil. We
Speaker 7: ran into Jay on Wednesday at Market Basket in Bedford.
Speaker 7: We were doing our grocery shopping and.
Speaker 6: Happening more frequently that we run into people grocery shopping.
Speaker 7: Yes, yes, it's fun. Yes, that is that that has
Speaker 7: become a common occurrence.
Speaker 6: We saw him there tissues.
Speaker 7: Okay, yeah, oh that's right, because I knocked over a
Speaker 7: bunch of tissues because I I I'm a klutz and
Speaker 7: I knock things over and I drop things, and I
Speaker 7: still think leads the world.
Speaker 6: And what your nose leads the world?
Speaker 7: My nose leads the world, well your world anyway, Well
Speaker 7: that's true. I use a lot of tissues because of
Speaker 7: my allergies. Yes, I had quite the sneezing fit just
Speaker 7: right before we went on the air, actually, but it
Speaker 7: was But it was wonderful to run into our friend Jay.
Speaker 7: And of course please check out Chasing the Devil. If
Speaker 7: you have not listened to Chasing the Devil, you must
Speaker 7: hear them. We always do a world radio premiere here
Speaker 7: on the program every time they have a new single,
Speaker 7: and so that was really nice to run into Jay.
Speaker 7: And I think right, So again, we're about to make
Speaker 7: radio history for the first time ever. I'm going to
Speaker 7: go ahead. I'm going to initiate the call via WhatsApp
Speaker 7: with our friend Charles Richardson, and hopefully this goes well.
Speaker 7: Hopefully the sound quality is good. We've never done this
Speaker 7: live on the air, So here we go.
Speaker 6: I feel like we need a drum roll now.
Speaker 7: And I, by the way, so I have two options.
Speaker 7: I can click video or voice. I'm going to click
Speaker 7: voice because we have no way of bringing the video
Speaker 7: of Charles into the show. So because it is a
Speaker 7: radio show after all, I mean, we are on the
Speaker 7: air of the mind. We are on video, and we
Speaker 7: stream to Facebook and YouTube and everything, but it is Yes,
Speaker 7: radio radio is theater of the mine first and foremost.
Speaker 7: So I'm going to click voice and let's oh wait, first,
Speaker 7: I better bring the volume up though on the uh.
Speaker 6: You might on that computer, the mental telepathy will work
Speaker 6: well for the audience.
Speaker 7: Yes, otherwise we won't hear anything, so oh you never know.
Speaker 7: On the board, it is still labeled Skype because I'm
Speaker 7: still using that Uh.
Speaker 6: Well that's because it changed this morning.
Speaker 7: I'm still using that computer. Yeah, we just realized this
Speaker 7: morning that we can't use Skype anymore. Okay, so Skype
Speaker 7: is gone. No one can use Skype, al ip Skype. Okay,
Speaker 7: here we go. I'm going to click voice as we
Speaker 7: sail into history, as Sean Connery says in The Hunt
Speaker 7: for Red October. Okay, let's see what happens. Oh oh,
Speaker 7: that's a good sign. I hear ringing. I hear it
Speaker 7: in my headphone, so I was, so. I assume it's
Speaker 7: going out over the air too.
Speaker 6: You are a moment early.
Speaker 7: Oh it it works, Hello, Charles, can you can you
Speaker 7: hear us?
Speaker 5: I can hear you. It didn't work on my lap
Speaker 5: on my computer. I wanted to use my studio microphone headphones,
Speaker 5: but it's like, not forget it ain't gonna work. That's
Speaker 5: all right.
Speaker 6: Interesting.
Speaker 7: See that is interesting because we had the same I
Speaker 7: gotta figure out. I gotta figure that out because we
Speaker 7: have the same issue when when we tested it before
Speaker 7: the show, when Jenny called me, I could only answer
Speaker 7: it on my phone. I could not answer it on
Speaker 7: the computer. That's interesting. Okay, that's something we're going to
Speaker 7: have to figure out. Well, at least we got to
Speaker 7: talk and you sound great.
Speaker 5: Well, thank you. I appreciate you. You sound wonderful as well.
Speaker 7: Thank you. Well, we strive for that here on the program. So,
Speaker 7: of course, Charles Richardson, host of The Charles Richardson Show,
Speaker 7: which has returned. Right, you're on what are you on now?
Speaker 7: Actually you might be changing your schedule, right, Yeah you
Speaker 7: heard huh.
Speaker 5: So normally it was well, originally when we were starting
Speaker 5: to go on, it was Monday, Wednesday, Friday. I decided
Speaker 5: to take a mental break sort of speak for a while,
Speaker 5: and then we came back to just doing Monday and
Speaker 5: Wednesdays because Friday was like an ify day anyway, we
Speaker 5: like to go to Disney and have the weekend, so
Speaker 5: Friday night usually didn't work for us. Well, now I'm
Speaker 5: having the problem with Monday because Monday just kicks my patuity.
Speaker 5: I have to use that work, I guess.
Speaker 7: Yeah, socc regulations. In fact, they prefer it that you
Speaker 7: use opportunity. It's the preferred Yes, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 5: So Monday was was was kicking it really good. And
Speaker 5: plus also Raw is on and yes show during Raw,
Speaker 5: and and how interesting it's going on right now? This
Speaker 5: is great. So with all those two factors playing in,
Speaker 5: we're trying to think of another two nights that we
Speaker 5: can do this that won't affect our schedules. And with
Speaker 5: thinking the Tuesday and Thursday rendition of the Charles Richardson Show. Okay,
Speaker 5: has not been made official yet, and I will go
Speaker 5: on record and saying this is not an official announcement.
Speaker 8: This is a preliminary announcement.
Speaker 5: It will be ratified by a unanimous vote here in
Speaker 5: the household.
Speaker 7: I see, are all votes unanimous? Or is it ever contentious?
Speaker 5: Oh? We don't have any rules here.
Speaker 7: I understand. I understand is.
Speaker 5: Mine And even if, even if, even if the vote
Speaker 5: doesn't go my way and I even vote against my
Speaker 5: own stuff, I can rather fight and just make it approve.
Speaker 7: Anyway, right, I see, Yes, I see.
Speaker 6: Can you hear me?
Speaker 7: Okay, Charles? I feel like we had a problem with
Speaker 7: this microphone last night during Paul's show. Are you hearing me? Okay?
Speaker 5: No? Yeah, you're fine. You're coming to it good, Okay.
Speaker 7: I just I just had to turn the volume way
Speaker 7: up on this Mike, Jenny, are you hearing me?
Speaker 4: Okay?
Speaker 6: Not when you turn your head.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it sounds a little. It sounds a little funny,
Speaker 7: doesn't it get rid of the well, I don't think
Speaker 7: I don't think that's the Uh well, that might help
Speaker 7: a little bit. It helps a little bit, yeah, getting
Speaker 7: rid of the filter. But yeah, we we we've been
Speaker 7: having a problem with this microphone and and Peter was
Speaker 7: in early this morning to fix it. But I think
Speaker 7: it's still uh, it's still causing an issue.
Speaker 5: Come on, Peter, get with it here. Let's go ahead
Speaker 5: and update that mic.
Speaker 7: Well the dough Yeah, well it's not it's not the mic.
Speaker 7: It's it's the processor apparently. But uh no, he came in,
Speaker 7: he came in early this morning to make sure that
Speaker 7: it was that it was working. But it's it's been
Speaker 7: a little bit. Uh, it's been a little bit funky.
Speaker 7: I might I'm gonna switch to a different mic. Actually,
Speaker 7: why don't why don't you guys can Jenny, why don't
Speaker 7: you and Charles talk for a couple of minutes. I'm
Speaker 7: just gonna switch this really really quickly. I know that Charles,
Speaker 7: you wanted to talk a bit about mental health this morning, right, Well,
Speaker 7: it was one of.
Speaker 5: The subjects that I would uh, I wouldn't mind talking
Speaker 5: about because I deal with it on a daily basis.
Speaker 5: I mean, it's yeah, it's really it's it's really tough
Speaker 5: to the point where Number one and I don't want
Speaker 5: to get too personal, but the home life isn't exactly
Speaker 5: peaches and cream. Uh, it's it's not as vanilla as
Speaker 5: people would think. Oh, they must love to be so beautifully. No,
Speaker 5: it's not. And it's not just you know me, me
Speaker 5: and the the significant other, my wife. It's uh, it's
Speaker 5: our son who's grown up and is getting more and
Speaker 5: more edgy, more and more obnoxious, really, if you want
Speaker 5: to be honest, So it is tough as a parent
Speaker 5: number one to deal with the with the kid already
Speaker 5: with ADHD and some uh uh and and some behaviors.
Speaker 5: I feel, what was this odd? Or OHDC or something
Speaker 5: like that occ you know me, But it's like a defiance.
Speaker 5: It's defiance is what is uh the diagnosis that he's got.
Speaker 5: And he's defiant to mom but to me, Oh, he
Speaker 5: doesn't dare cross me. I don't know if it's just
Speaker 5: because of my nature, if I'm speaking too deep, I
Speaker 5: speak too deep, he may listen to me more like
Speaker 5: Darth Vader or something like that. I mean, but when
Speaker 5: you're in the household like that, where there is constant arguing.
Speaker 5: And I'm not talking about domestic issues like you know,
Speaker 5: if I'm yelling at the wife or my wife's yelling
Speaker 5: at me. Now, this is just trying to control the situation.
Speaker 5: And it does get out of handle a lot of times.
Speaker 5: And I honestly, I have no room to run. I
Speaker 5: have to get out of the house. I have to
Speaker 5: get out breathed and take a back because I would
Speaker 5: go nuts, I would hurt people, and I'd probably end
Speaker 5: up in jail if I stayed in the house. It's
Speaker 5: just it comes really bad.
Speaker 7: That does sound very challenging. I'm a I'm on a
Speaker 7: different mic now and it sounds a lot better in
Speaker 7: my headphones. Yeah, yeah, much much better. Yeah, that that
Speaker 7: does sound challenging, Charles. You know, as as I think.
Speaker 7: You know, I don't have any children. Jenny and I
Speaker 7: have two cats, and that's as close to actual fatherhood
Speaker 7: as I've ever wanted to get. Well, there is there is,
Speaker 7: of course, DJ Rackless, who I suppose, I suppose that
Speaker 7: there are some paternal feeling there, but uh, but you know,
Speaker 7: but he's all grown up now too, so.
Speaker 5: But that's the thing. When they're growing up and out
Speaker 5: of the house, or even if they're in the house
Speaker 5: and growing up, it's like, listen, we don't have to
Speaker 5: stay here. You can leave and hopefully hopefully they'll be
Speaker 5: he'll be obliged to leave if that's the case. Not
Speaker 5: I did. I'm not to say that this is always
Speaker 5: that way. There is times where it's great. There's times
Speaker 5: when we have a lot of fun and we there's
Speaker 5: good times there. But it's just the point of saying
Speaker 5: no to him, which I'm sorry, we're we're gonna say no.
Speaker 8: There's nothing to it.
Speaker 5: If there's something that he did not deserve, did not earn,
Speaker 5: or or something that it's too late it's time for bed. No,
Speaker 5: he's gonna throw a fa he's gonna throw a temper tantrum,
Speaker 5: start kicking things and occasionally throwing things. Although that's that's
Speaker 5: become less of a headache, but it's it's still it's
Speaker 5: still challenging to deal with. Listen, dude, it's bedtime. You know,
Speaker 5: it's bedtime. It's been bedtime for like this for seven years.
Speaker 5: Get used to it's done, go to bed. But no,
Speaker 5: but he's he's doing he's doing this, uh that seven
Speaker 5: year tantrum that if it's bedtime. Oh oh, we're not
Speaker 5: doing this. And you know, I don't know how my
Speaker 5: parents did it when I was growing up. Maybe because
Speaker 5: I was just a good child. I was. I was
Speaker 5: a sweet little angel.
Speaker 7: Well that's the thing, you know, I was. I was
Speaker 7: a perfect angel as well growing up.
Speaker 5: And uh yeah here Jenny laugh.
Speaker 8: And I don't think that's true.
Speaker 6: Actually, I've heard stories he was actually the good kid
Speaker 6: I was.
Speaker 2: I was.
Speaker 7: I was a good kider.
Speaker 6: Like hearing his mom says something that he did that
Speaker 6: was wrong was like in my world. Really, that's it.
Speaker 6: That's just that's that's it.
Speaker 7: Huh.
Speaker 6: You might have said I don't like you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, My my word is if our son says I
Speaker 5: hate this day or I don't like you or something
Speaker 5: like that, Oh it's time out. Can you imagine what
Speaker 5: I would I would have to deal with if I
Speaker 5: told my mother I don't like you, go away leave
Speaker 5: me alone?
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 5: No, No, it would not be tolerated, and my bottom
Speaker 5: would hurt for a while, maybe even other parts of
Speaker 5: my body. But you know what, nothing was ever like. Oh, well,
Speaker 5: it's illegal to spank your children and it's illegal to
Speaker 5: talk bad to your children. But I'm so over this.
Speaker 5: I mean, yes, I get abusing kids is one thing,
Speaker 5: but discipline is another. I'm fully behind the corporal punishment
Speaker 5: for discipline.
Speaker 7: I've always and again, I'm not a parent, so I
Speaker 7: always feel a little weird about not having an opinion.
Speaker 7: That's not the right way to put it. But but
Speaker 7: I you know, I don't, I don't, uh, I don't
Speaker 7: make too many judgments about it. I think generally, I
Speaker 7: think it's probably something to avoid actual corporal punishment, because
Speaker 7: I think that, you know, some child psychologists and sociologists
Speaker 7: would argue that you kind of teach you run the
Speaker 7: risk of teaching your child that that the way to
Speaker 7: resolve conflict is through some form of violence. Having said that,
Speaker 7: I also do understand. I've heard parents explain and I
Speaker 7: have my own term for it. I call it the
Speaker 7: hot stove argument, where if your child is repeatedly trying
Speaker 7: to touch a hot stove and you have to tell
Speaker 7: them repeatedly to not do that, and you're not doing
Speaker 7: that to punish them or anything, you know, You're just
Speaker 7: you're doing that because you don't want them to harm themselves,
Speaker 7: because it's going to potentially burn them if they touch
Speaker 7: that hot stove. And they keep trying to do it,
Speaker 7: and so the only way to finally get them to
Speaker 7: stop is maybe a little pat on the bottom or
Speaker 7: a slap on the hand or whatever it is. I
Speaker 7: get that, and that is for their own goods. So
Speaker 7: I think it's my from my perspective again as a
Speaker 7: non parent, so I'm kind of talking out of my
Speaker 7: backside a little bit, but I think it's probably something
Speaker 7: to avoid. But I also I do understand a situation
Speaker 7: may arise where that's your best option because you're trying
Speaker 7: to keep them safe, and maybe that's the only way
Speaker 7: you can you can do it.
Speaker 8: It's not the only way to us. We go through
Speaker 8: different steps.
Speaker 5: I mean, my my wife is an ABA therapy, so
Speaker 5: she has all the knowledge in the world. We're dealing
Speaker 5: with kids that have autism and stuff like that with
Speaker 5: the same with the same respect as what my son
Speaker 5: is dealing with. Even though he's not on that spectrum yet,
Speaker 5: he's very close. He was tested, he was tested early,
Speaker 5: so we're probably thinking the test him again. It's been recommended.
Speaker 5: But she has all these techniques. We have, you know,
Speaker 5: rewards charts, we have this and that. But yet to
Speaker 5: your point where we're explaining ourselves over and over again,
Speaker 5: and we're trying to explain Listen, you know it's this
Speaker 5: is not a punishment, this is just time. This is
Speaker 5: it's not in the cards today. Uh. And he goes
Speaker 5: off the chain like that.
Speaker 8: And and this is not just him saying I don't
Speaker 8: like this. This is him screaming.
Speaker 5: This is him yelling, throwing, kicking stuff, kicking a dog sometimes.
Speaker 5: I mean, that's that's extreme. But you know our dogs
Speaker 5: are small. I mean they can get her easily. Sure,
Speaker 5: it's a lot of big behavior issues from a little
Speaker 5: kid who's not even like fifty inches tall yet at
Speaker 5: nine years old. So he's a little guy. And I
Speaker 5: know he's probably had some issues with that too. He
Speaker 5: doesn't like being the little guy, and I understand that.
Speaker 5: But I also told him, listen, when you get into football,
Speaker 5: nobody's gonna touch you. You're so fast, you just go ahead,
Speaker 5: just go around them that they're not gonna be able
Speaker 5: to mess with you. You're so tiny, you just go
Speaker 5: underneath their legs. Yeah, it's it's it's cool. So it's
Speaker 5: but when when I say corporle punchs, but I'm not
Speaker 5: talking about taking them out to the back and hanging
Speaker 5: him or anything like that. That's not what I'm talking
Speaker 5: about talking about.
Speaker 6: That would be murdered.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and well some people can take that to another
Speaker 5: degree that that's saying I'm not talking about that. I'm
Speaker 5: not even talking about taking a spatchelor or wooden spoon
Speaker 5: and spanking. I'm not talking about that is a tap
Speaker 5: to the butt. It just you need to stop. Yeah, Okay,
Speaker 5: we tried the talking, we tried the time out. They
Speaker 5: ain't working.
Speaker 8: You will get a spanking.
Speaker 5: And I'm sorry for people and parents that feel that way.
Speaker 5: But when it comes to difficult times, come to difficult decisions,
Speaker 5: and that's a difficult decision. My wife doesn't agree with that,
Speaker 5: and and really bless her. I respect her opinion on that. Yeah,
Speaker 5: I respect her opinion on not spanking, but there's times
Speaker 5: that she's had to because all else has failed.
Speaker 7: Has has I gotten better as he's gotten older, or
Speaker 7: or has it gotten worse or what's what's kind of
Speaker 7: the situation there? You said he's nine years old, now.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so when we got the one, he was two.
Speaker 5: She already had some some issues with the people that
Speaker 5: he was staying with. We're trying to get that out,
Speaker 5: but it's been you know, the memories on him. Are
Speaker 5: you sput this way when when when we first got him,
Speaker 5: I was putting on my belt to go to work
Speaker 5: on my jeans. Dad, you don't hit me?
Speaker 8: Oh, so we know it was abuse going on, Yeah,
Speaker 8: you know, and it's.
Speaker 5: Like, no, I'll never do that. No, No, I gotten
Speaker 5: hit with the belt before too. It's like, we're not
Speaker 5: doing this. There's other ways to handle this. I'm not
Speaker 5: doing this. And it's never come to that. It's never
Speaker 5: come to the wooden spoon or anything like that. So
Speaker 5: that's that's at least a good thing. Yeah, But from
Speaker 5: the time we got into now it's actually it's gotten
Speaker 5: a little bit worse because he just has that much
Speaker 5: energy in him to the point where he can't tone down,
Speaker 5: he can't down shift. It's it's, uh, how Jacob Fatu
Speaker 5: put it now, all gas, no brakes, that's him, that's him. Wow.
Speaker 7: No, that's that's challenging. Yeah, that is that is very challenging.
Speaker 7: Are you and Alyssa generally on the same page in
Speaker 7: terms of how to deal with him? I mean, I
Speaker 7: know that with the spanking you've got some disagreement there,
Speaker 7: but what what about? What about? More just more broadly,
Speaker 7: are you or do you? Have to have a lot
Speaker 7: of discussions about how do we handle this?
Speaker 5: A lot of its discussions because I don't understand. See,
Speaker 5: my way of being brought up was you do not
Speaker 5: disrespect your parents one bit, and if you do, there
Speaker 5: is consequences, and some of those consequences can be severe.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Now with that being said, I understand that this is
Speaker 5: a new day and age where we have to be
Speaker 5: we have to adjust to not offend anybody and stuff
Speaker 5: like that. So so the discussion is I'm grateful to
Speaker 5: have a wife that is actually in the field that
Speaker 5: she's in, so we do have discussions. She's trying to
Speaker 5: explain to me why this is going on and that's
Speaker 5: going on. So in a way, I'm actually being taught
Speaker 5: by my wife in regards to this type of behavior management. Well,
Speaker 5: also the fact my wife does deal with this eight
Speaker 5: hours a day and she comes home and she has
Speaker 5: to do it again. She's already exhausted. So sometimes it
Speaker 5: doesn't get followed that much. So the argument doesn't comes.
Speaker 5: And I wouldn't say argument, I would just say, listen,
Speaker 5: you want me to follow the plan? How about you
Speaker 5: follow it too, because right now you're telling me to
Speaker 5: do one thing and do to do another thing. And
Speaker 5: I understand you're frustrated.
Speaker 8: We're all frustrated.
Speaker 5: And I understand you're tired and you just have a
Speaker 5: long day and you don't want to deal with it anymore.
Speaker 5: But this is our job, right, this is our unpaid job.
Speaker 5: We need to go ahead and do this. Yeah, and
Speaker 5: you're talking about me being on the same page, which
Speaker 5: she constantly says, I'm not talking about me being on
Speaker 5: the same page. You gotta be on the same page too.
Speaker 5: It is a constant struggle, man, It's a constant struggle.
Speaker 5: And yes, there's times I'm stepping in my car and
Speaker 5: I'm thinking I can't do this because if I do,
Speaker 5: I'm gonna do something that's way wrong. I need to go.
Speaker 5: I need to have a drink. And I'm not talking
Speaker 5: about club soda.
Speaker 7: I'm talking about Yeah.
Speaker 5: So it's a struggle though.
Speaker 7: Yeah, Yeah, I've seen you know obviously over the years,
Speaker 7: I've seen some videos that you've posted where you've talked about, uh,
Speaker 7: you know how how challenging it all is. And uh no,
Speaker 7: I feel for you, man, Like I said, as someone
Speaker 7: who's not not a parent. I can only imagine how
Speaker 7: challenging that is. And you know, it's one of the reasons.
Speaker 7: There's a there's a number of different reasons why I
Speaker 7: was never interested in having children of my own, and
Speaker 7: and one of them is how do you deal with
Speaker 7: challenges like that?
Speaker 5: You know?
Speaker 7: Another one is I don't know how anybody affords it.
Speaker 7: There's all kinds of reasons why I am happily childless.
Speaker 7: But uh, but but no, so I feel for you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, And we've wanted to have kids, and I've come
Speaker 5: to question my own insanity over the years, like why
Speaker 5: did I want this? But I also understand that, listen,
Speaker 5: he does have something developmental issues, he does have some
Speaker 5: behavioral issues, And you know, that's kind of the thing nowadays,
Speaker 5: like isn't it like now that we're more aware of
Speaker 5: these mental challenges, that we're starting to see it and
Speaker 5: starting to The one thing I don't get is pilling
Speaker 5: up my kid.
Speaker 8: Do you realize he's already on six medications.
Speaker 5: He's on the same type of medications, not the same type,
Speaker 5: the same number of medications that I am on. And
Speaker 5: I have diabetes in the high blood pressure. Yeah, and
Speaker 5: I'm on those. I combined the two and basically that
Speaker 5: the same the same number of medications is what my
Speaker 5: mom used to take.
Speaker 8: And that scares the frightened crop.
Speaker 5: Out of me.
Speaker 7: Really does has has he always? Has? He always been
Speaker 7: on that many or is that more of a recent development.
Speaker 5: So he started off on the one where he takes
Speaker 5: in the morning and that usually got him through the day.
Speaker 5: And this is going through the testing experimental five year old,
Speaker 5: six year old stage when he's just started school. Then
Speaker 5: they said, no, maybe he needs a midday bumper, you know,
Speaker 5: so they give him another one there for the midday.
Speaker 5: Then we find out he's not going to sleep, so
Speaker 5: they have a quantity that's on there and we take
Speaker 5: that with melatonin and it kind of, you know, it
Speaker 5: kind of mellows him out, but not really. He's becoming
Speaker 5: immune to it. And there's a couple of other ones
Speaker 5: there that I don't really understand. My wife would understand
Speaker 5: more than that. But it's all been by doctors that
Speaker 5: have seen him, that know his diagnosis, that knows what
Speaker 5: he's going through. And we're telling him that this is working,
Speaker 5: this is not working. Stuff like that, I mean, and
Speaker 5: don't get me wrong. He's not like this twenty four seven.
Speaker 5: Like right now, he's in his room. He's doing quiet time,
Speaker 5: which is part of his routine. That's one thing with
Speaker 5: kids with ADHD is we have to have a routine
Speaker 5: and make sure he sticks with it. Yeah, so he
Speaker 5: had breakfast right before we got on the show, and
Speaker 5: once he's done with his breakfast, he goes in this room.
Speaker 8: Now, you can have TV on some type of mild thing.
Speaker 8: That's the other thing.
Speaker 5: We got to make sure what he wants watches is
Speaker 5: something crazy. I mean, he's already addicted to miles around
Speaker 5: Spider Man for definite reasons, but he is addicted to
Speaker 5: Spider Man. Loves spider I think he's been Spider Man
Speaker 5: three times during Halloween and I'm seven years so almost
Speaker 5: half the time he's Spider Man. Wow. So I'm trying
Speaker 5: to find out who is Was there any big guy
Speaker 5: in the Marvel universe that actually? I mean, I guess
Speaker 5: I could be the Hulk. You know my body. I mean,
Speaker 5: I'd be the out of shape Hulk. Beat him. Uh.
Speaker 5: We're turning into a Marvel family really, And of course
Speaker 5: we're Disney fans, so that kind of goes along with it.
Speaker 8: But what was I talking about?
Speaker 5: Medication? Yeah, I'm going all over the place. Man, I'm sorry.
Speaker 7: That's quite all right, that's quite all right. We haven't
Speaker 7: talked for a while, so this is uh, this is good.
Speaker 7: You're allowed to go all over the place. But so
Speaker 7: I'm curious, So what what do you do? And by
Speaker 7: the way, so other people who might be in a
Speaker 7: situation similar to you, who have kids that are challenging,
Speaker 7: might be really interested in this too. What do you
Speaker 7: do for you You know, we talked about you know
Speaker 7: his you know, the different meds and everything, and how
Speaker 7: you try to manage him. But but what what do
Speaker 7: you do for yourself to give yourself some relief, to
Speaker 7: make yourself feel better, to cope with it all? What
Speaker 7: are some I mean, do you have some I assume
Speaker 7: over the years you've developed and probably ALYSSA too, You've
Speaker 7: you've probably both developed some some coping mechanisms to to
Speaker 7: kind of help you with this, uh, this challenge of
Speaker 7: raising your child. So I'm curious about some of that.
Speaker 5: Well, a lot of it is trying to take yourself
Speaker 5: out of the situation. So obviously, did come to a
Speaker 5: point where you have to deal with the situation, so
Speaker 5: that you know that that's understandable, that we all know
Speaker 5: that the dealing of the situation. But once you've dealt
Speaker 5: with a situation and it is still ongoing, like when
Speaker 5: we put him in time out, we put him in
Speaker 5: time out into an area where there's doors, there's class closets,
Speaker 5: wooden closets, and we hear him against the door. I
Speaker 5: want out, I want out, I want out. Like honestly,
Speaker 5: if people, if we lived in an apartment complex, we'd
Speaker 5: have the cops called twenty four to seven because he
Speaker 5: wants out. They go, oh my god, he wants out.
Speaker 5: He's being trappist.
Speaker 8: He's not being trapped.
Speaker 5: He's in time out, right, So a lot of times,
Speaker 5: you know, the best way is to ignore the situation
Speaker 5: because he's trying to get attention. Yeah, and that comes
Speaker 5: into other factors too, with going to bed, and again
Speaker 5: this brings me back to the point, I don't understand
Speaker 5: how my parents did it. Because we actually have a
Speaker 5: camera in his room so we can monitor what he's doing. Uh,
Speaker 5: we're obsessed with the camera, unfortunately, I mean, but that's uh,
Speaker 5: but that's the way we can kind of see what
Speaker 5: he's doing. And he too, on his blanket, he choos
Speaker 5: on his pillow case. He goes in and picks his
Speaker 5: hair and twists his hair. If you took a look
Speaker 5: a close.
Speaker 8: Look at him, maybe even a far close, a far.
Speaker 5: Look at him, you see that there's like areas of
Speaker 5: spots of hair that are missing because he keeps picking
Speaker 5: his hair. He cracks him out, He cracks his knuckles,
Speaker 5: choose his fingernails. And I know it's an anxiety thing.
Speaker 5: You know that I've confirmed with my wife, like yeah, this,
Speaker 5: this is this is an anxiety thing. So he's just
Speaker 5: doing it because he's nervous or anxious or just you know,
Speaker 5: he doesn't want to be in that situation or he's not,
Speaker 5: but he does not. And this is the problem though,
Speaker 5: which right to break him out of him? He does
Speaker 5: not tell us what's going on, what's wrong, nothing, what's
Speaker 5: w and the problem And I think the thing is
Speaker 5: too when I get frustrated, I don't want to talk
Speaker 5: about it, I do the same thing. So I think
Speaker 5: I'm fearful that he's actually taken that from me, and
Speaker 5: that that that stinks, and I'm sorry that I brought
Speaker 5: that upon him. But that's my ment. That's my mental
Speaker 5: languish too, is I just don't want to talk about
Speaker 5: because if I talk about, it's going to be any
Speaker 5: more mad.
Speaker 8: And I don't want to yell my wife. I don't
Speaker 8: want to yell and scream and.
Speaker 5: Go into it.
Speaker 8: It's like, I know what the problem is. There's nothing
Speaker 8: you can do.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 5: And my wife, I love her so much, she is
Speaker 5: so nice and understanding. She wants to help in any
Speaker 5: way possible. I just tell her the truth is this point,
Speaker 5: this problem problem X. So whatever the problem is at
Speaker 5: that time.
Speaker 8: There's nothing you can do to help me.
Speaker 5: There's nothing you can do. And I appreciate your help,
Speaker 5: but there's nothing. And of course she feels emotional with
Speaker 5: that because she feels helpless, and it's like, I'm sorry,
Speaker 5: there's nothing you didn't do anything wrong. This is something
Speaker 5: I have to deal with. And unfortunately, I think that's
Speaker 5: what my son picks it up from. But when we
Speaker 5: go ahead and put him in time out, and we
Speaker 5: tried to go ahead and calm him down when he
Speaker 5: is told no, or he's told something he doesn't like,
Speaker 5: let's put it that way. Just over all that we
Speaker 5: need to go ahead, he's he's going to explode. He's
Speaker 5: gonna blow up, and he's going to go ahead and
Speaker 5: say things and do things, and that obviously isn't what
Speaker 5: we are teaching him. We don't want him to do that. Yeah,
Speaker 5: So when he goes into his timeout area, he starts
Speaker 5: banging on the walls and screaming. We immediately either we
Speaker 5: leave this, leave the area. We still have a camera
Speaker 5: in the living room too, so we can see so
Speaker 5: that way we know he's not harming himself, but we
Speaker 5: leave the area just so he knows that.
Speaker 8: Hey, nobody's listening to me.
Speaker 5: And usually that works because usually it's all for attention.
Speaker 7: Right, and that makes sense.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that works. Now we feel like, well, we should
Speaker 5: be out there attending to him, but we we're kind
Speaker 5: of We kind of are because we do have a
Speaker 5: camera that's in the living room that does watch over
Speaker 5: the whole house plus his timeout area, so we see
Speaker 5: what he's doing and if if there is anything that
Speaker 5: is harmful to him. We're not too far away. We
Speaker 5: don't in a big house. We're not too far away.
Speaker 5: So we'll go out there and take care of the
Speaker 5: situation if it warn't that. But it doesn't, it hasn't,
Speaker 5: thank god. It hasn't gotten to that far yet.
Speaker 7: Yeah, Jenny had something.
Speaker 6: I'm assuming that he probably has a diagnosis of CPTSD
Speaker 6: as well with the abuse.
Speaker 5: Oh he doesn't. I don't know if you just have
Speaker 5: never been tested for it, but maybe that's something that
Speaker 5: we could test him on. But no, he's never been
Speaker 5: tested for that.
Speaker 6: I feel for him a great deal and something I
Speaker 6: don't talk about very often as I was raised in
Speaker 6: significant abuse and I have CPTSD and it actually causes
Speaker 6: kiddos to live in fight flight fear every moment of
Speaker 6: every day. And it's literally a brain injury that causes
Speaker 6: the brain to develop differently than it would in a
Speaker 6: child who hasn't been abused. So I can only imagine
Speaker 6: when he's pent up like that, when he's when that's
Speaker 6: coming out all that, where it's coming from. And how
Speaker 6: I commend you in that this is a very difficult
Speaker 6: thing to try and overcome. And thankfully he's at a
Speaker 6: young age that you're doing this. And yes, of course
Speaker 6: I know he has a therapist. I know you guys
Speaker 6: do all of that, And how hard that is as
Speaker 6: a parent to look at a child and realize, you know,
Speaker 6: this is coming from an honest and genuine place. He
Speaker 6: didn't ask for what happened, But now he's stuck in
Speaker 6: that fight flight fear to try and help him overcome that.
Speaker 6: I mean, I know it's years. I know that you
Speaker 6: guys have. It's been a long trip to get to
Speaker 6: this point, and it's amazing what you've been able to
Speaker 6: accomplish with him and to be able to help him
Speaker 6: through those difficult times when you know that switch is
Speaker 6: not shutting off, it's it's just it's stuck and he
Speaker 6: has nowhere to put that energy or or where to
Speaker 6: where to go with it, and it's just it's it's
Speaker 6: coming out and in the ways that it is that
Speaker 6: are unfortunately sometimes destructive, but you're able to help minimize
Speaker 6: and keep him safe at the same time.
Speaker 5: The one the one thing that we always do and
Speaker 5: and thank you, Jenny, but the one thing that we
Speaker 5: we always try to do, regardless of the situations. We're
Speaker 5: always there to say, listen, we're here to help. We
Speaker 5: want you to listen. We are ready to listen to
Speaker 5: you when you need something, you need help, you tell us.
Speaker 8: What's going on.
Speaker 5: It's even come to the point now where we're kind
Speaker 5: of putting we're kind of putting our foot down when
Speaker 5: he is visible, visibly upset, crossing his arms, grunting man,
Speaker 5: and we're telling what's wrong, nothing, No, we're we We
Speaker 5: used to take that and it's like, well, listen, we're
Speaker 5: here to talk if you want to talk, but he
Speaker 5: never did. So now it's to the point where, no,
Speaker 5: you're going to tell us what's wrong because we need
Speaker 5: to know what's wrong so we can help you. You
Speaker 5: need help, even though you want to be strong and stubborn,
Speaker 5: but you need help. Daddy needs help, mommy needs help.
Speaker 5: We all need help. So there's no shame in asking
Speaker 5: for help, right, Yes, such one. I appreciate that, thank you,
Speaker 5: but sometimes that doesn't work. More often than it has,
Speaker 5: he has started to come around to understand that I
Speaker 5: don't know or nothing is not an appropriate answer anymore,
Speaker 5: because you do know, you do know, and you you
Speaker 5: need to tell us what you're feeling. And he needs
Speaker 5: to learn how to express his feelings, and we're trying
Speaker 5: to teach him that it's okay to have feelings. Dude,
Speaker 5: I underst saying you're in school and you got peer pressure,
Speaker 5: and you got people that just act like animals. We know,
Speaker 5: we've heard, we've talked to teachers and you and you
Speaker 5: have this just this instinct on well, if they're doing
Speaker 5: it and they're getting all this attention, I'm gonna do it.
Speaker 5: He's taking it. But it's also that.
Speaker 6: Front, right, it's also that front right where he's that's
Speaker 6: his defense mechanism fight fight. Fear is kicking in, and
Speaker 6: that defense mechanism comes up and goes, oh, I'm gonna
Speaker 6: shield myself. Nobody's gonna hurt me because I'm not letting
Speaker 6: him get close enough.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 6: It's you know, he doesn't know that he's doing that,
Speaker 6: but that's his own mind's way of trying to self protect,
Speaker 6: to try and anticipate that something might hurt me, so
Speaker 6: this might go wrong, and you're trying to help him
Speaker 6: overcome what has become a natural reaction for him, for
Speaker 6: his mind or his body, because that's safety, that's protect
Speaker 6: self protection.
Speaker 5: Right.
Speaker 6: It's not the way you want him to go, but
Speaker 6: you're trying to teach him. And that's why I have
Speaker 6: a lot of hope for him, and that he is young,
Speaker 6: and you guys have been able to You're been working
Speaker 6: these many years, and he has so many more years
Speaker 6: to come with having two parents that are really putting
Speaker 6: in the work and willing to have that difficult conversation. Right,
Speaker 6: That's the hardest thing is to say it's okay to
Speaker 6: say you don't feel okay, It's okay to tell me
Speaker 6: something's not right, it's okay to tell me a negative thing.
Speaker 6: And that's like such a huge thing to give them
Speaker 6: permission to share that most vulnerable thing, that that thing
Speaker 6: that's making them terrified. Essentially, like, I don't want you
Speaker 6: to know this because I believe you're gonna get angry
Speaker 6: with me, but you're not. You're you're trying to tell him. Nah, dude,
Speaker 6: you can tell me anything, and I'm going to be
Speaker 6: right here to hear it. I'm not gonna get mad
Speaker 6: at you. I'm gonna help you deal with it. But
Speaker 6: that that isn't that the lesson you're working on right
Speaker 6: now as he matures to learn that it's okay and
Speaker 6: it's safe to come to mom and dad say this
Speaker 6: is bothering me, you know right, you know.
Speaker 5: We're here behind closed doors. You don't have to be
Speaker 5: tough to in front of your friends. Because there was
Speaker 5: even he had a test, a big test to graduate
Speaker 5: third grade.
Speaker 8: Yes, he's a year behind, but that was a choice that.
Speaker 5: We made because he wasn't grasping everything was so far behind.
Speaker 5: But he had a big test to graduate third grade,
Speaker 5: and he was I saw Hughes asly nervous. Mom already
Speaker 5: had to talk with him while I was getting ready
Speaker 5: for work. I didn't know that, so I had to
Speaker 5: talk with him in the car as I was dropping
Speaker 5: him off to school that I could hear a say, yeah, Mom,
Speaker 5: he already told me. He said, all right, well, listen,
Speaker 5: anything that's happened around your kid, around school, ignore these
Speaker 5: people that are trying to make jokes. Don't focus on
Speaker 5: anything but that you answered the question. Don't guess because
Speaker 5: he has a tendency just to guess and everything.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 5: So, but I knew he was nervous, and you know,
Speaker 5: he was influenced later that day to say that be
Speaker 5: calling somebody the B word, which we don't use in
Speaker 5: the house. And uh, it's.
Speaker 6: That these kids are exposed to. It's way different than
Speaker 6: what we were kids.
Speaker 5: Way yeah, yeah, it's it's it's we're trying to teach
Speaker 5: him that it's it's okay. And by the way, Mike Gonzalez.
Speaker 8: Thank you very much for them for that.
Speaker 5: Uh for acknowledging me with that. Oh yeah, Isaac, Isaac,
Speaker 5: wait till after my segment to do some promotion.
Speaker 7: We should we should read Uh we haven't heard from
Speaker 7: Gonzo in a long time. By the way, I want
Speaker 7: to read this comment our our friend dot Gonzo. He says,
Speaker 7: courageous topic matter. I appreciate your transparency, Charles, because nobody
Speaker 7: has the guts to talk about being a father in
Speaker 7: the struggles. It comes with the fear of judgment. But
Speaker 7: it's good to hear.
Speaker 6: So yeah, said miss YouTube absolutely well said I'm a
Speaker 6: daddy's girl. I always raised by my dad.
Speaker 5: But I'll be honest with you, it's not a fear
Speaker 5: of judgment or what the public would view me. As
Speaker 5: you but you both know this, I really could care
Speaker 5: less of any outside criticism. If I'm not breaking the law,
Speaker 5: then I don't think you should have to criticize me
Speaker 5: or anything like that.
Speaker 8: I mean, if you want to judgement judgment, that's fine.
Speaker 5: You can take your judgment and bring it to your
Speaker 5: own court, because that's all it's going to get any
Speaker 5: any validation to me, it's not going to have any
Speaker 5: effect on my life. You know, I feel what I'm
Speaker 5: doing is right. I feel what I'm doing is improvement.
Speaker 5: And you know, I'm not perfect, and neither is any
Speaker 5: parent out there. Every parent thinks that there's a rule
Speaker 5: book that you can just go to on any normal situations,
Speaker 5: saying acting crazy because he's told no, we need to
Speaker 5: if ABC and the Okay, Hi, honey, go ahead and
Speaker 5: get the juice. No, it's it's there's no rule book
Speaker 5: into this. Nobody's perfect. And I'm gonna say the same thing.
Speaker 5: As egotistical as I am, I'm not perfect, and I'm
Speaker 5: trying to learn everything I can to try to be better,
Speaker 5: not only for my son, but for myself as well.
Speaker 5: Tried to learn to take more because honestly, I don't
Speaker 5: want to be this dad that just goes away for
Speaker 5: ice cream and never comes back. Yeah, and I'm afraid
Speaker 5: that one of these days that I go out for
Speaker 5: a drink, I may never come back. And that's my fear.
Speaker 5: But I don't want to do that. I don't want
Speaker 5: to do that, and I want to have a way
Speaker 5: of you know what, maybe I don't go out, but
Speaker 5: there's a way that I can call myself to make
Speaker 5: and do a better decision than just leaving it up
Speaker 5: to mom.
Speaker 7: Right, yeah, well, you know again as as someone who
Speaker 7: does not have children, I I uh, you know, I
Speaker 7: feel for you and I respect how you're you're able to.
Speaker 5: Uh, we can spy him up that you guys can
Speaker 5: watch him over the summer if you while. I mean,
Speaker 5: that's fine, that's.
Speaker 4: You know, that's okay.
Speaker 7: I think he'd probably uh you know, well actually he
Speaker 7: might like New Hampshire in the summer. But no, that's okay.
Speaker 7: We don't think my.
Speaker 6: Intro back into kiddos is going to be a smaller
Speaker 6: sized one eventually, not not not yet, but maybe a
Speaker 6: nana in my future.
Speaker 5: I remember, he's a little bit he's a little bit
Speaker 5: bigger than your cat. I mean not that much bigger.
Speaker 5: So maybe he came like a cat.
Speaker 7: He could probably bunk with DJ Reckless, right, you know,
Speaker 7: there we go. I remember years ago, we were we
Speaker 7: were gonna have easy g move in with us and
Speaker 7: bunk with Reckless. Yeah, they were gonna have bunk beds.
Speaker 7: It was gonna be a lot of fun. But it
Speaker 7: never never never happened. Yeah yeah, well, you know, sometimes uh,
Speaker 7: sometimes he's don't work out by the way, Charles. So
Speaker 7: we only have a little bit of time left before
Speaker 7: we get to the top of the hour. But how
Speaker 7: are you How are you enjoying Raw on Netflix?
Speaker 5: Well, when it actually works, it's fine. I'm loving the
Speaker 5: I'm loving the buffering and the delays that issue.
Speaker 7: Yeah, you've had trouble with the Well maybe it's your
Speaker 7: service left.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we left though. Even though I have a gig
Speaker 5: gig bit processor, I still have problems getting Netflix. Oh
Speaker 5: no kidding, it could be. It could be the road Coop.
Speaker 5: I'll be honest. We don't have the high tech rod
Speaker 5: coup or Apple TV or anything like that.
Speaker 6: Maybe that's what it is our internet, So now we're
Speaker 6: not having any.
Speaker 5: Leg there you go. But no, I do. I am
Speaker 5: liking Raw. I mean, I understand this. It's gonna get Curtis.
Speaker 5: All the haters are gonna hate no matter what. But
Speaker 5: I actually do enjoy the storyline. I'm very sad to
Speaker 5: see brone strum and leave again. I know there was
Speaker 5: no storyline there, but I always like when he comes
Speaker 5: into the ring and kicks people's you know, bottoms and
Speaker 5: son like I feel such like at let go.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it just happened last night. A whole bunch of
Speaker 7: NXT people are gone, Oh my god. It happens every
Speaker 7: year after WrestleMania. They go through and they release a
Speaker 7: bunch of people and you know, make room for new people.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 6: No, I'm sad.
Speaker 5: It's evolution. It's an evolution. Bron didn't really have a storyline.
Speaker 5: He just came in there to kick a couple of
Speaker 5: people around and that's now. Yeah, they do, but they
Speaker 5: had no creative direction for him, and that's the thing.
Speaker 5: He hasn't had creative direction since the wyots.
Speaker 7: Yeah. I do feel like they kind of they've kind
Speaker 7: of done everything they could with him. He'll probably end
Speaker 7: up in a w and he'll have a fresh go
Speaker 7: to paint and.
Speaker 8: You know, and then come back. It's just like crusive.
Speaker 7: Yeah yeah, but did you want I assume you watched WrestleMania.
Speaker 5: Of course, I actually was was live with the Josh
Speaker 5: Zodiac podcast and they streamed. We were streaming it live
Speaker 5: as it was going on, obviously not video but audio only. Yeah,
Speaker 5: but yeah, yeah, we were calling shots. We predicted night
Speaker 5: one there was gonna be so much interference, and there
Speaker 5: end up being zero interference. So it's like we felt
Speaker 5: like absolute idiots. We did. I did call Paul Haman
Speaker 5: his turn. I called it right down the middle. I
Speaker 5: think the short description I put on my Facebook when
Speaker 5: I was predicting, when I was predicting the night one
Speaker 5: was Paul Hayman is now in between two his he's
Speaker 5: a best friend, he's a wise man. Who does he
Speaker 5: you know? Who does he do? Over? Yes? And he
Speaker 5: ends up being a.
Speaker 6: I didn't see that. I did not see that coming
Speaker 6: at I saw it.
Speaker 5: I saw it.
Speaker 6: I did not see him a set.
Speaker 5: Look at my look at my Facebook and the crime stamp.
Speaker 5: I called it right down the middle.
Speaker 6: They totally got me on that one. I had no
Speaker 6: I did not see that coming. And wow.
Speaker 7: Now also, and I'm sure Eric, I know well, I
Speaker 7: know Eric has talked to you about coming on Tough
Speaker 7: Bumps with Us, our new wrestling podcast that Eric and
Speaker 7: I are doing. But I'm really curious. The biggest disagreement
Speaker 7: that we had on episode one, and we're actually recording
Speaker 7: episode two today, but the biggest disagreement we had on
Speaker 7: episode one was the John Cena versus Cody Rhodes match.
Speaker 7: I actually liked it, but I feel like everyone and Jenny,
Speaker 7: you liked it, right, you didn't have any problem with it.
Speaker 7: From what I recall, you liked the match.
Speaker 5: I didn't have.
Speaker 6: Any problem with it. It just wasn't as energetic as others.
Speaker 7: Yeah, the the you know, the general consensus online seems
Speaker 7: to be a lot of people hated it. Eric didn't
Speaker 7: like it. I'm curious what you thought, Charles.
Speaker 6: I didn't.
Speaker 5: Yeah, here's here's what I said. And and you have
Speaker 5: to be objectively a person that knows the wrestling, the wrestlers,
Speaker 5: what match you're gonna do. Cody and John Cena are
Speaker 5: not top flight people that you're not going to see
Speaker 5: him do acrobatic moves all over the place. They are grinders,
Speaker 5: they are they are basically Matt junkies. They are gonna
Speaker 5: They're gonna go ahead and they're gonna grind these things out.
Speaker 8: You're not gonna see a bunch of high flying.
Speaker 5: So the matches that you see with the Lugidors is
Speaker 5: going to be well more entertaining than anything you're gonna
Speaker 5: see with with John and Cody. Sure, I felt that
Speaker 5: this I felt this match delivered on everything that these
Speaker 5: two wrestlers could do. And the Travis Scott, even though
Speaker 5: a lot of people were bummed at the Rock didn't
Speaker 5: make an appearance.
Speaker 8: I could have told you he ain't gonna be there, and.
Speaker 5: I'm okay with that, But the Travis Scott appearance and
Speaker 5: the way John Cena won was justified. He is a superhel.
Speaker 5: This is a John Ceny heel that should define healism,
Speaker 5: if that's even a word. Really, yes, this is a
Speaker 5: this is a John Ceny heel that I think it
Speaker 5: ended the way the character is portrayed, and that's by
Speaker 5: doing what he's doing. The Eddie Guerrero lied cheating and
Speaker 5: stealing anything he can get his hands on to win
Speaker 5: the match, and that's what he did.
Speaker 7: So it sounds like you're you're in line with what
Speaker 7: I said basically, so you enjoyed the match, and it
Speaker 7: sounds like you really enjoy John Cena working as a heel,
Speaker 7: and that to me, that was my argument to Eric.
Speaker 7: It was like, yeah, the match was slow. He's forty
Speaker 7: seven years old, but at his work rate was never
Speaker 7: that great to begin with. But we're seeing we're well,
Speaker 7: well no, it's it's true, but we're seeing we're seeing
Speaker 7: heel John Cena. And they had to let that breathe.
Speaker 7: The match had to be kind of slow to let
Speaker 7: that breathe and let us sort of take that in
Speaker 7: what heel John Cena is like and I'm really enjoying it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I do like the character.
Speaker 8: And again, I think a lot of people like the character.
Speaker 5: That's why he's getting mixed reactions instead of just straight
Speaker 5: up booze. Yeah, regardless of maybe the booth could be
Speaker 5: filtered in because there's so much positivity.
Speaker 7: Going on with the character now, I don't know, because
Speaker 7: we find we finally got what we wanted. Yes, we finally, we.
Speaker 5: Finally when when when he kicked Cody right there in
Speaker 5: between in the private area, Uh, during that during that
Speaker 5: elimination chamber, Uh, there was such a pop. And I'm
Speaker 5: not talking about bad pop. It's like yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 5: did you get him a booth? Yeah? I mean it
Speaker 5: was just it was great. I mean, and and I
Speaker 5: think that's why I truly believe back in creative and
Speaker 5: again this is just a theory. I truly believe they
Speaker 5: were going to come out with a whole new entrance,
Speaker 5: with a whole new gimmick, with a whole new dress,
Speaker 5: and just because that's what people wanted the No.
Speaker 7: Yeah, that was the other thing I liked at WrestleMania.
Speaker 7: I liked the minimalism of seeing his entrance with just
Speaker 7: you know, his name in white on a black background.
Speaker 7: I thought that was I thought that was perfectly done
Speaker 7: and uh and and really set the tone. I thought
Speaker 7: that was excellent.
Speaker 5: Yep, I'm liking everything they're doing.
Speaker 8: Really.
Speaker 5: I mean, there's not a whole lot that I'm not liking.
Speaker 5: I don't like the Mister America re themed.
Speaker 7: Oh, I like it.
Speaker 5: I like it.
Speaker 7: I think I.
Speaker 5: Love it.
Speaker 6: I like it.
Speaker 7: I think it's I think it's fun.
Speaker 6: It's totally fun. And I get my back.
Speaker 5: Yeah, the whole mister America thing, it's not No, it's
Speaker 5: not it is.
Speaker 6: It's his thank you character repackaged.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I think it's I think it's fun. I'my. I
Speaker 7: love Charles. Charles. We are right up against the top
Speaker 7: of the hour, so we're gonna have to move on
Speaker 7: in a moment. But this has been wonderful. We must
Speaker 7: do this more often. And I'm sure I'm going to
Speaker 7: see you on the Tough Bumps podcast too. I know
Speaker 7: you and Eric have been talking about that. But also,
Speaker 7: please give your show a plug.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so right now it is basically how do we say,
Speaker 5: it's whenever we go on, we go on. Usually it's
Speaker 5: Monday and Wednesdays that we have right now. That could change.
Speaker 5: But going to my Facebook, it's actually posted there on
Speaker 5: the comments Facebook dot com FoST as the Charles Richardson Show.
Speaker 5: That's my page. You can subscribe to my YouTube channel
Speaker 5: also titled The Charles Richardson Show, and our affiliate station,
Speaker 5: which is my own station for eighties and nineties dance
Speaker 5: music Power one Radio. We're also aired there live and
Speaker 5: that's on the Live three sixty five app as well.
Speaker 7: Outstanding outstanding, well, Charles, always wonderful to speak with you,
Speaker 7: my friend. Like I said, we must do this more often.
Speaker 7: And my best to everyone there, and I am sure
Speaker 7: we will talk to you soon. And by the way,
Speaker 7: thanks for being the guinea pig with us using WhatsApp.
Speaker 7: We've made radio history for the first time on Matt
Speaker 7: Connorton Unleashed, we have used WhatsApp for this purpose. Now
Speaker 7: that now that Skype is now that Skype is deceased,
Speaker 7: r I P Skype.
Speaker 8: Why do you guys call me a pig?
Speaker 5: I mean I'm already fat enough as it is. Yes, yeah, yeah, yes,
Speaker 5: I love you guys. You take care all.
Speaker 7: Right, you too, Charles take care bye bye, all right,
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